tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4594479561284139819.post3943042465485713089..comments2023-09-26T01:45:05.972-06:00Comments on Leave it to brat.: Writing Challenge #2. Polyamory.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05911164749484261165noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4594479561284139819.post-70482411956167101692014-07-16T12:11:42.204-06:002014-07-16T12:11:42.204-06:00I will so, so, so happily help guide you through t...I will so, so, so happily help guide you through this, His slut. Believe me, everything you are feeling right now is *very* normal. <br /><br />As we just kind of hit topic wise in our emails (I am responding to yours in the other window), limits - while you and I have no limits in our relationship/dynamics, we still have needs, fears, wants, worries and etc. For U/us I don't , nor does He feel the need to have limits put in place, because He has known me since I was 14 years old. He knows me better than I know myself. That is not often the case for a lot of people, and doesn't always work well for some. Limits are can be very important. <br /><br />I see a lot of confusion... confliction? here in your comment sweetie - and I so understand. The scenarios you wrote out could be a wonderful time, and yes , it can be the ultimate submission. What you need to sit and ask yourself is, is the anxiety you are feeling over this, causing your brain to say, heck no - hard limit, hard limit! Or, is this something that you feel in your gut and heart, that you, like you said here, just are nowhere near ready to consider it. <br /><br />This giving you nightmares shows that it's often on your mind, and running around wild in your subconscious. Before doing anything, I always tell people - lots and lots and LOTS of talking with one another first - being full on open and honest about every thing, big or small that is in your head/heart and gut on this topic,before doing anything at all. The fears you listed are not only rational, but smart, and very normal. And for myself, if I get that strong feeling in my stomach, to where I almost feel... sick? Then I know I that something is very wrong in what we are doing. I follow that gut feeling before my brain, and it never fails me.<br /><br />I am here to talk to you about this, in whichever way you go with it - here to answer any questions you may have, or just listen if you need. I hope everything I have said here makes sense, I didn't sleep well last night and on my first cup of coffee! lol<br /><br />Big Hugs, xx<br />brat <br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05911164749484261165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4594479561284139819.post-59607311769237360032014-07-16T03:39:30.939-06:002014-07-16T03:39:30.939-06:00I have a feeling you and I will be talking about t...I have a feeling you and I will be talking about this. He wants a third. He could care less who the third is. He knows I'm worried He'll want her over me. He makes a point of picking pointing out women He would never touch. <br /><br />Granted, I have no limits, He knows this is a limit. We talk about it when I ask. In fact, we will be discussing it when He gets back from travels. <br /><br />Two scenarios:<br /> her eating me out while He face fucks me or just watches. <br /><br /> Me eating her out while He fucks me from behind. He knows me interacting with a girl, if it ever happens, would be purely to please Him. So, to feel me cum and moan from Him while doing that would be the ultimate submission. <br /><br />I'm not even near ready to consider. In fact, I have nightmares about it. I'm scared of the after. In particular, will I hate Him? Will He really understand the emotional effect it may create?. Will He be there to truly catch me?What if I freak out? Will He hate me for screaming the safe word? And the list goes on. My nightmares have to do with all of this and it's creating some huge anxiety. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4594479561284139819.post-43096087401983521662014-07-14T14:37:54.331-06:002014-07-14T14:37:54.331-06:00Yes! Exactly. Not better, but fulfilling in a diff...Yes! Exactly. Not better, but fulfilling in a different way. I can never really find the words to describe it either. I guess they call it the Unicorn Hunt for a reason,huh? <br /><br />And same with us - lol. They always know - but then, they always seem to know everything.. still trying to figure out how they do that! x_x<br /><br />Lol, I love the rambly comments. But then, I can be quite the comment whore! :oAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05911164749484261165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4594479561284139819.post-47019350769106129442014-07-14T14:27:51.006-06:002014-07-14T14:27:51.006-06:00That togetherness... yes. It's not that it'...That togetherness... yes. It's not that it's better than just two, but there is something completely... fulfilling? about that three person unit. I don't know how to describe that feeling right. Lol. Those "could-bes" are so hard to handle sometimes. :/<br /><br />I get that longing. Still. But I distract myself until I don't think about it anymore. The Monster can always tell when I start to wish for it, because I recommend threeway porn. Haha. >_><br /><br />Lol you're very welcome for my rambly comments. Thanks for putting up with them. Lol xDMonstrsNightmarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01255178217062735503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4594479561284139819.post-72393249326927438302014-07-14T14:16:00.453-06:002014-07-14T14:16:00.453-06:00***Big big hugs back to my favorite Nightmare!! :)...***Big big hugs back to my favorite Nightmare!! :)***<br /><br />Yes, you said it SO perfectly well. I had to really ponder how to word this post with still having some hard feelings that I deal with, with the whole experience. So many things that I truly miss about what a triad can give you. The togetherness of three in that way, the sharing - the great sex, lol! Think I should have mentioned intentions also, if everyone doesn't have the same wants and intentions - it blows up just as fast. <br /><br />Definitely takes a lot of time to heal from, as with any failed relationship. There are set backs in that process as well.. I'm with you fully there. I still have those moments as well. And I do admit, I sometimes feel a little empty - after having a relationship like that, and see what it COULD be, it makes you long for it later sometimes. <br /><br />Thank you for commenting with your thoughts - I love getting your comments! :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05911164749484261165noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4594479561284139819.post-59563810333990212452014-07-14T14:05:47.475-06:002014-07-14T14:05:47.475-06:00*BIIIIIIG HUGS for my favorite brat*
So well thou...*BIIIIIIG HUGS for my favorite brat*<br /><br />So well thought out and written! And so many good points made. It takes so much work and when one party isn't as forthcoming with feelings/expectations/thoughts things start to crumble. Quickly. Then you're left standing there wondering where it started to go wrong. <br /><br />I think losing someone that you thought was right, takes so much out of you. Heck, it's been three years for us and I still have my moments where I just get so... melancholy.MonstrsNightmarehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01255178217062735503noreply@blogger.com