The Elements of Fear.

 This post has been sitting in my draft box unfinished for over a month. The thoughts still roam in my head, not making sense. I came to try to finish working it out, so I could finish this post - and didn't get any farther.

 So, I am going to do something I never do! I am going to throw this very unfinished post, full of unorganized thoughts, not knowing where to go with it..out there. Just to see if anyone wants to add thoughts on the subject. Ready... set.... read, and comment. :P xx



 I've been having a string of thoughts that has led me to wonder...

   Submissives and slaves  - what keeps you in line the most for your Master/Mistress? Is it respect... an element of fear from punishment, and/or displeasing them.. or maybe you just really hate getting into trouble? I mean,we all can't be masochist... can we? And even those of us who are masochist, hate the pain that comes from actual punishment. It is SO not the same as the pain we get from other sessions. And even worse, we hate that we have displeased our Dominant. Let's face it, that part sucks!

  I realize these are loaded questions. Of course we all respect them, and we hate displeasing them. But, bear with me as I work this out in my head...

            ...maybe it's the element of fear that I am wondering about?

 All submissives and slaves are not identical in how they think, feel... in how they do things, in how they are trained and etc. Just as, all Dominants are not identical. We all in fact, are very different in a lot of cases. Most end up finding out that, it's the dynamics, titles, rules and such that work best for us that works.. not what the typical set out D/s relationships say it should be.

 But I think in most cases, the bottom structures are similar. Along with the titles, rules, and protocols.

.......(face palm) Geez, brat. Talk about a post that so far is just stating the obvious. 

Ok, let's try another thought path here... Awhile back, and I am so sorry.. I cannot remember who was posting about this, but I remember it was a great post. The post was basically talking about fear. How she needed the fear she had. It's fear... to her,and I agree.... in a good way. Needing that real, actual fear. 

How many of us crave that real fear? How many of us need that in our dynamics? 

Maybe these thoughts would maybe tie into the post I did awhile back on Conflicting Cravings/Craving real punishment. That post led to some awesome after thoughts from a lot of you, found here in the follow up post.