Day 7: Do you accept and/or expect discipline or punishments as a part of your submission? How do you feel about it?
Yes.. absolutely. It is a part of our dynamics. I hate actually getting in trouble, I am rather impish and playful, but I am one who tries to never be disrespectful or downright bad/unkind/rude etc.
Disappointing someone is always such a bad feeling, especially when they are your Dominant. For me, I feel it's needed in our dynamic, it helps keep me in place... it helps me grow and learn and it just overall works for us. Day 8: Is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission? Why or why not?
Yes, if Sir finds it is needed or fitting. He is very much a, punishment fits the crime type Dom. He'll often combine spanking with another fitting punishment , like an example would be for swearing... soap in the mouth, or brushing teeth with soap - spanking - corner.
We also have spanking within play, just because He feels it's needed or wanted, or He will sometimes grant me a spanking if asked nicely, or during sex , etc. We used to do maintenance spankings as well. (another post coming about that soon!)
I often hear that a lot of submissives find that spanking is not an effective punishment for them, because they like them so much. For me though, Sir's punishment/discipline spankings are so very different than His play/sex/other reason spankings. And they are indeed very effective for me.
Day 9: Do you accept and/or expect structure, rules and limits as a part of your submission? How do you feel about them?
Yes. yes yes yes. Not only do I accept/expect them, I need them. I do best with these things being part of my submission. I know this about myself, and am at my best with them in tact. Without them, I start to feel very out of place.
*note - I've noticed a lot of bloggers wanting to do the 30 days of submission. I've sent the questions to a couple of people, and now have added a tab on top of my blog with the questions for easy access. Please feel free to them if you are one who wanting to do this as well. xxoo brat
I couldn't agree more...on all 3 topics. Particularly spankings for punishment. They are intended differently, delivered differently, and I am sure not to enjoy them whatsoever!
ReplyDeletelittle girl - lol, well said doll! Not enjoyable at all.. and they always make sure of that. hehe. Thank you for commenting! :) xxoo
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Welcome back! Hope you had a wonderful weekend with your Sir. Great post. We are very similar, except I'm one of those that spankings don't work as punishment, quite the opposite for me actually. :)
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Thank you hon! We had a great weekend, and got some so awesome news! I promise I will post the big news as soon as I am done with the catch up on these posts .. one more to go! lol.
DeleteI've talked with a lot of people that are like you with that, that no matter how or what with punishment spankings, they still enjoy them. I can understand that. :) What kind of punishments do work for you? :)
xxoo! :)
Sir is big on writing lines, if I'm sassy I get the clothes pin on my tongue-- OUCH in the not fun way, lectures, early bedtime, isolation, denial of play/sex. Then there's the threat of the 11 quarters punishment, which is one quarter held by finger tips against the wall arms spread wide, and one between nose and wall. Hold that position for however long he decides, if a quarter falls, the time starts over. He's not used it yet, but I'm guessing it's only a matter of time. Apparently it's much more difficult than it sounds, and quite painful in the muscles.
DeleteGotta love how creative they are! Hope mine doesn't get the quarters idea:)
DeleteAnd I can certainly relate to the clothespin on tongue thing...and it wasn't even meant as punishment.
Lol, sounds very much like Sir as well. Very creative, and makes punishments very memorable. On that note, kneeling on legos really suck. :P Sir always combines these with spankings and corner, or one or the other. Never seems to be just a singular punishment around here. x_x
Deletexxoo to you both! :)
"Disappointing someone is always such a bad feeling, especially when they are your Dominant."
ReplyDeleteSuch beautiful words my dear. For me (and many other subs), it is an intensely bad feeling. It's different and worse than the kind of pain that you get on your ass from the same disappointment.
Thank you so much sub hub!
Delete" It's different and worse than the kind of pain that you get on your ass from the same disappointment." That is so,so,SO very true! Well said! :)
I can't wait to see your post on maintenance spankings. Mistress and I are going to be reviewing our relationship soon (as we will often do over dinner out). I am going to suggest that she consider implementing maintenance spankings as part of our rituals. I honestly think they would be helpful for us to maintain our respective roles in our relationship as we are more and more pressed for time alone.
ReplyDelete"I often hear that a lot of submissives find that spanking is not an effective punishment for them, because they like them so much" I've heard that too. I've even told that to Mistress but now I have a different take on the matter. I think it is far too easy to forget that punishment spanking is not, and should not be fun. If it were a true punishment spanking, then it needs to hurt, thereby eliminating the chance that it might be misconstrued as being something playful.
Hey, I like being pulled naked over my wife's knees just like next guy. Hell, even writing those words here are giving me an erection, but that is far different than being immobilized (or prohibited from moving) while your ass is being spanked hard enough for you to beg for it to stop, then being told at that moment that the spanking had just begun.
Love your blog a little more each time I read it.
Again, so perfectly worded sub hub. A punishment spanking should indeed really hurt - and leave a lasting impression on your mind, and your bum. The tone, the way the spanking is delivered, the disappoint from the Dom.. ee, all something I really try to avoid. You get that feeling in your stomach, much like when you were a kid and knew you were in really big trouble etc.
ReplyDeleteThere is also something to said about being pulled over ones knees like that, especially in a forceful and controlling way. Those kind of thoughts always get me squirming as well. lol. But yes, very different for sure. :)
I always so love getting your always insightful comments. I look forward to them! Thank you. *smile* And, the maintenance spanking/punishment thought follow up post should be up today or tomorrow time depending here. :)
xxoo
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p.s I can't wait to hear how the dinner goes and what your Mistress will say! :)
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