Writing Challenge #2. Polyamory.
*What if your Owner wanted to open your relationship or become polyamorous*
This is kind of a 'moo' point for us. We are polyamorous. I have a beautiful and talented Domme, MisKnickers who lives in Australia, I don't get to see her that often. But when we do, it's always fabulous. And thank gods we're in the technology age! Our relationship is very unique and amazing. I am a very lucky sub. (See tattoos in sidebar that we got during her last visit)
As for triads, having a third and all that jazz. We've done it. Our last triad was great at first, but in the end, we all got very hurt. We learned a lot from it, though. We both truly enjoyed having a third. So many wonderful things can be had in a relationship like this. It takes very serious hard work to make them work, but I suppose that is true of any relationship. These can just be a bit more challenging. There has to be complete honesty on all sides. You have to expect feelings that are natural to come along - some jealously etc. We are all human, and cannot help having normal human feelings or reactions to certain things.
In all honesty, it has taken me over a year to recover from the damage that came out of our last attempted triad. Not because of the kind of relationship that it was, but because so many things didn't get handled in a way that it should have. You have to be able to risk, and ask yourself if your main relationship is strong enough to handle the risks that can happen. It takes full communication and honesty on all sides to make it work. When one side doesn't fit, or work that way it will very well blow up in your face.
There are so many different dynanics in the poly world. There is no true right or wrong, it's what works for the people involved. They take work, but they can be so fulfilling and worth it.
As for this brat, I am very content with what I have. And feel very,very lucky to have what I do with both of my partners. Would I try to add more, or embrace a triad again? If the person was right, and everyone in my current relationships were completely ok with it - sure. But I'd do it differently this time. I wouldn't go as fast, I'd be very insistent that everyone was being completely honest and open.. and I would fight a bit harder to make sure it worked this time around.